Not When She Is 9 Years Old!

My daughter cried.

She cried when I took her school clothes shopping.

She cried while in the dressing room when the jeans she picked out didn't fit her.

What have I done? Have I shown so little love for my own (chubby) body that my daughter has learned to hate herself as well?

She wouldn't talk to me at first, she just sat there with tears in her eyes and her face turning red. I pleaded for her to talk to me. I got mad when she wouldn't. She finally said that she didn't want to buy any clothes because she hates the way her body is changing. (Breaking heart)

I always tell her I love her. I always tell her she is smart and beautiful and amazing in her abilities. She must also hear me say how I want to lose weight and that I think I am fat. But I exercise and I thought I talk about it in a positive way. I make healthy meals for the whole family, not just for me. So where did I go wrong?

I have always taken her into the dressing room with me when I try on clothes. I am short. For the width that I am, the pants are always too long. My pants always get hemmed. My daughter has inherited that from me. So, she finds jeans that are the "right length" and then she cannot button the pants.

Nine years old is too young to feel this way. Actually, I don't ever want my daughter to hate herself whatever age she is! No girl should be made to feel this way.

What is a mom to do?